Working With Me Is Personal — And That’s the Point
People often assume that boundaries are about distance. But for me, they’re how I protect the depth of the work I do.
When I say yes to a client, I don’t just mean professionally, I mean personally.
I talk a lot about boundaries, alignment, and building sustainable systems. But let me be clear: I don’t do that because I want to keep people at arm’s length. I do it because when I say yes to a client, it’s never casual.
I don’t clock in, deliver some tasks, and disappear. When I’m in, I’m in.
That’s why I’m selective. Not because I want to be exclusive. But because I treat every working relationship like a real relationship.
Hiring Someone Is Personal. Let’s Stop Pretending It Isn’t.
One of my clients said something recently that stuck with me:
“When you hire someone, you’re creating a personal relationship — not just a professional one. Their success becomes tied to yours.”
And it hit me — yes. That’s exactly how I feel.
The clients I choose to work with aren’t just getting deliverables. They’re getting me in their corner.
When something goes wrong, I’m there. Not just fixing, but feeling it. I worry alongside them. I troubleshoot. I replay conversations in my head looking for the disconnect. Not because I have to. But because I care.
When something goes right? I feel that too. That launch that finally clicked. The team member who felt empowered. The revenue increase that came from a process we built together.
I celebrate like it’s our win. Because it is.
This isn’t surface-level work. It’s the kind of support that requires energy, focus, emotional labour, and strategy. And that’s why alignment matters so much. Because I can’t do this well in a one-sided dynamic.
I’m Selective Because I’m All In
The truth is: I only work with clients I know I can show up fully for.
That means:
I don’t take every project that lands in my inbox
I don’t say yes just because the budget is there
I don’t build systems for people who aren’t ready to do the work with me
I’ve learned that mutual investment is the only thing that makes this work truly sustainable. If one person is over-functioning while the other is disconnected, no process in the world will fix that.
I don’t thrive in relationships where I’m treated like a service on tap. I’m not the “just tell me what to do” type and I don’t expect my clients to be either.
We build together. We win together.
Boundaries Aren’t Barriers. They’re Commitments.
There’s a misconception that if you have strong boundaries, you’re rigid or inaccessible. But for me, it’s the opposite.
My boundaries create the container for deep, impactful collaboration. They’re what allow me to show up with my full attention and care, because I’m not overextended, overcommitted, or resentful.
I’ve said no to projects that looked amazing on paper but didn’t align in energy, communication, or clarity. Not because I think I’m “too good” for it, but because I’ve done enough of this work to know what happens when I override the early warning signs.
My presence suffers. My work suffers. And the client doesn’t get the version of me they deserve.
Saying no isn’t a rejection of people. It’s a promise to the ones I say yes to.
When I Say Yes, I Mean It
If I agree to work with someone, it’s not because they fit a niche. It’s because something in the conversation clicked. Because I saw that they were as invested in this working relationship as I am.
My yes means:
I care about your mission
I’m willing to wrestle with the hard stuff
I’m thinking about your business even when I’m not on the clock
I’ll be there on the messy days, not just the polished ones
This is why I keep my roster intentionally small. Because my clients aren’t just clients. They’re people I’m building something with.
When I say yes, I’m not just offering support. I’m offering partnership.
Working with me is personal — because that’s the point.
If you're building something that needs more than a plug-and-play solution, someone in the trenches with you, invested in what you're creating, those are the conversations I want to have.
